[Babychoupette] When the parents become grandparents

August 10th, 2009 in (Three cheers for the girlfriends)

Today, put to Caroline, alias Babychoupette:

I am 31 years old, inhabitant Vincennes, bride for 2 years with tremendous Zhom who well takes care of his small wife and his Small Lou who is 7 months old.
Otherwise, put to one side the chocolate, I ad re my 2 men, I am great (too) active and I try to reconcile everything how all those who read this blog! :-)

Strange phenomenon that that of big - motherhood and big - fatherhood. Especially if it is for the 1st time what was the case of my parents.
Imagine that since the birth of Small Lou, I became, how I would say transparent and that my parents "forgot" some of their principles
I call Mom to tell her 2-3 knack of my week, history that she does not say that I am an unworthy girl who does not think any more of her, and at the end of 15 seconds, dialogue turns in how goes Small Lou? did his small button on the left ear leave? and his appetite? did not he too much suffer from big hot season? . Of course, it would shock me that she does not take news of her grandson but that she speaks ONLY about him, while I kill myself to find 15min in peace in my rhythm gone beyond of super-working-and-mother-woman to call her her, it is unbearable!
Other example? I was always brought up in culture you make children, you take them. Do not count (=mes parents) on us to keep you your children while you will leave to live it up for a hospitalisation yes, because it is a case of force majeure, but otherwise, niet . I had therefore made my religion and in spite of the tiredness of 1ers month, I always kept Small Lou hung on my basques No way to show the slightest weakness to my parents, not but! Oh well imagine that 3 weeks ago, it is the same who pled me on the telephone to leave them Small Lou one weekend because he is too cute and they will be able more to use it OK, I did not play my stubborn, I said yes, too happy at the idea of making my 1st fatty checkmate for 7 months but nevertheless it is mad.
And the summit of the ridiculous my parents are not too demonstrative but from now on, at home, there are EVERYWHERE photos of the sonny: in the living room, master key still, but on the fridge, in the bedroom, in the handbag, in a frame in the corridor. I think that there is only TOILET and the bathroom who were spared.!!!
OK, token, I complain but I prefer that Small Lou has big loving parents but nevertheless, before being his grandparents, it is my parents and from time to time, I would just like that they remember it and they could say I too " my m man "!

And to you? Unexpected reactions of your parents to the birth of your dear blonde heads?

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17 comments

The Mother Joy says :

August 10th, 2009 in 9:26

Very nice this text!
It is the rhythm of life: skip generations, change place while finding a balance in the pyramid.

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cleanettte says :

August 10th, 2009 in 9:37

I just made my crisis of adolescence and therefore taken compl tement and completely my independence in relation to them and especially in relation to my mother at sonny's arrival. Needs to say that she would have endured that they make return ticket to at home (that is 800km! by car without option TGV) at least 1 time every 2 months with a baby!!! Fortunately since relations it are pacified and of own him admissions it was good for it to learn to keep its place by report has his children become big.

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Said Laetitia :

August 10th, 2009 in 9:52

My mother, bah the very same that your parents!!!! At home, there are photos of my poussinette everywhere, she speaks about it and shows it to everybody. It is funny, though a bit hard also!!
I tell myself that being can I would be similar when I would become grandmother. ;-))

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Said Leona :

August 10th, 2009 in 10:20

My parents evolved as yours, and even worse since at home, there is even a photo of my daughter in the bathroom

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Charlottina says :

August 10th, 2009 in 11:48

Mine are as yours: the phone calls which speak ONLY about my son, photos everywhere, it is wearing! My meal of birthday of my 30 years even began with presents for my son!! Therefore I spoke about it to my parents, I said to them that I was also their daughter and that you should not forget me, and good they said to me that I was jealous of my son! Needs to make it! Since, this goes better, but when this p te, this p te!
Anyway this reassures me that others live the same thing!
PS: My in-laws kept the cat of my brother-in-law and of my sister-in-law during their holiday. Yesterday, they came to recover him after traditional family lunch. And good my stepmother called her son to know if itinerary return of the cat (10 minutes!) had taken place well, if he had not been sick and if he had found well his landmarks I let you imagine his attitude in relation to his only grandson!

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vivi says :

August 10th, 2009 in 11:53

ah, before reading I told myself this can be everything or anything this can be big parents, that is absent or "too " present parents .

then just as you, I saw the same thing, I succeed there in telling myself but who are these parents sometimes
I go go too far but just a bit

When I phone, it is indeed centered on TEA star, if I it is not too much form well it is not very serious seen that my ptit boils he goes well
There for example, they would like that I go to spend some days or liked, with them on holiday, lack of bowl, spitz is therefore sick I am going to have to stay here but this mines them in a point that on the telephone it is of a sad their wailings and that well that I I have a hard time at the kin or to give the ventoline it is no more serious than this that, the worst it is that they could not see it..
eh well yes however it is so he is sick, you will not see him!

it is is possible be the distance which makes, finally relating but however, they are at one hour of road therefore they see it once about every 3 weeks
I do not know but I must say that sometimes indeed this weighs me rather well not to be more than the mom of their love! slim then I am also your daughter!

token it is sure I pr f re this that big parents who do not know more that they are him

but a golden mean would exist-t-il?????

ouh lala, I got worked up a bit there, cool, I am going to go to drink a coffee yours, ah well not the ptit love to its big parents has just woken up

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Said Cha :

August 10th, 2009 in 12:32

the very same for me except that I I am delighted! And yes finished the wailings of my mom because I had nothing to tell (and yeah I I tell nothing too much my mother on me).. of blow every attention is on my chouchounette and more pressure on me! too cool

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Said marine :

August 10th, 2009 in 13:05

every same obviously! ;-)
knack, it is, when they are little gnangnan, to force themselves to tell themselves: I will be surely similar when I will be grandmother. This helps, over instant. And then they lived more than to us, our parents they have surely very good reasons to become gaga just like that!

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said sarah :

August 10th, 2009 in 17:58

oh well at our place, it is fair balance on the side of big - mothers! it is sure, the small son is a chance to pass to deposit a ptit present, they complain to see him a little more often but they do not forget their child therefore, phew
on the contrary, they are big - fathers who are how to say absentees! but not for their child, their grandson: unknowns in the battalion! they do not take care of it, they do not take his news! and however my father was a daddy hen in my respect! it is strange coach 2 big - fathers act in the same way
I spoke about it to a girlfriend, who is in the same situation with her father; she says that there are parents who are not made to be big - parents!

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Anno says :

August 10th, 2009 in 18:48

Ah pooh I they are perfect on both sides, they think of the pitchoune a lot, mothers) take care of it wonderfully (grandfather as big - and forget me in no way (mom pays attention what I could sleep, take care of me, always ask me how is that go before my daughter) in short I think that I drew the number perfect parents) and my nice mother is adorable also. After of course the photos of the grandsons (my daughter is the 5th therefore they are tested) pervaded all walls everywhere but it is very natural and I am proud of it (she well need to say it is perfect)

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Said Blandine :

August 10th, 2009 in 20:03

It is simple I will have been able to write the same thing

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lili says :

August 11th, 2009 in 0:35

as I had my young children my parents were big young parents in 47 and 48 Years and their reaction was cheerful well on but this made them get old of a blow and they absolutely did not want that the babies call them grandpa, mamy, or quite other nickname of the meme type, he has therefore needed to innovate but untill today I still surprise my father to say without making express make a kiss to uncle

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Madder says :

August 11th, 2009 in 9:19

My father and my BM react the similar; this seems the reaction portrays new grandparents! my mother died when I was sixteen years old, I can only imagine how she would have reacted. his sister (my aunt) is a little more preoccupied of me than his grand-nephew.
on the contrary, this made a lease (even never in fact) that I did not speak of my feelings with my father therefore the arrival of his grandsons gives us a more personal subject about which it is possible to speak; I use it so that he speaks to us about our childhood also, to my brother and me, I really like.
Anecdote of cool moulu grandfather: I entrust him the heir after a vaccination with mission to watch fever and to let him well have a rest; especially I insist so that he is lying without turbulette; I remind every hour (my father says to me that they would think on cape they should be canaveral when he keeps his grandson) and every time, he swears me that especially he did not put the turbulette. In the final, he says to me that he makes his siesta and that he just put in him he kind of bag of sleeping arrangements without arm whom you left me last time ..
Other anecdote: the ecstasy of daddy when he saw the first disposable nappies!! and lingettes for baby.. and also when he tells me the day: he keeps his grandson assisted by my BM (who did not have children) and of a friend of my BM (childless either) and they make only this!!! they are three to give him the bath and when it makes siesta, I say to him you use it to work on your computer or to go shopping? oh, no, I wait that he wakes up

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vivi says :

August 11th, 2009 in 11:25

Madder, your temoignage is great funny and touching

I tell myself that etre can that when there is two it am different, no?

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e-Zabel says :

August 11th, 2009 in 21:45

My parents also changed in the birth of my flea! Especially my mother, this was hard for me outright on the contrary, I feel being brought closer to me to my father! He m was surprising to take care of my children!!

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Said Aude Nectar :

August 12th, 2009 in 18:01

My mother is gaga and asks only for their news also, I I can die.. Needs to say that they are more cute than me with her!

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Helo se says :

August 19th, 2009 in 17:08

I have chance to have a gaga stepmother in front of her first small supporting 2-month-old child and an overwhelmed mother by her 9 other small children, blow she loves being taken of time with me for debates from adult , she has no again included my new status, I love!

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